One year ago, two weeks before our 9th wedding anniversary, my wife sat me down and said she was leaving. By the end of February, she had moved out. Her decision caught me completely by surprise.

The first half of 2009 was a painful blur: there was the unexpected blow of her unilateral decision, some painful counseling that was focused on how a divorce works and nothing about reconciliation. There was negotiation about splitting assets. We walked around the house deciding who took what. Early on, I decided to seek joint custody of the two children. I wanted more than anything to shield them from my pain and ensure that they had the best opportunity to be kids and to grow up in a loving environment. It was critical to me that I take a

As time went on, I found my footing again. The pain and shock receded behind me. Every once in a while it would come rolling back like a ocean swell moving in the night, but it would always ebb away. The children proved their resiliency and are fine. My family, friends, and coworkers were always there for me, supporting me and loving me unconditionally. I reconnected with old friends. I began dating an wonderful and amazing woman who listens to me, understands me, and we have already had many adventures.

Exactly one year ago, I had no idea how my life would change when Nancy sat down across from me at the kitchen table and said “We need to talk.” My life has changed for the better.

First of all, I am thankful to Nancy for being fair and reasonable during the divorce process. I am especially thankful for my family, who are always there for me with a hot meal, help with the children, and a million other things. I am thankful for my friends, both old and new, for their fun, laughter, and advice. I am thankful for my girlfriend, who has been my angel, my advisor, my companion, and my best friend during some tough times and, more importantly, some amazingly fun adventures. Finally, I am thankful for my children, Caroline and Andrew, who bring my such joy and vibrancy to my life.

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Life goes on. And I thank God for that.